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Hello lovely lady!

Alex forwarded me this piece of gold and I am so glad he did! (He did so without any comment and admittedly I read until I got to your picture before realizing who the author was…)

I have been on a similar quest these past few years - no buying of clothes or shoes - not as much to reduce spending (you know I was never one to splurge on fashion) but to try to be a little more sustainable with the things I already own.

I didn’t set myself a strict no buying goal or a particular deadline, it just kind of took on a life of its own and has been going since 2021. That is not to say that I haven’t strayed in the past years (I can tell you all about my exceptions to the rule when you come visit me).

What has been of incredible help in terms of shopping my own closet is the stylebook app (cue the movie clueless as a predictor of modern closet technology!). It visualizes the endless amount of combinations and choices and reminds you of those long forgotten pieces. My favorite part are the statistics though (I know, nerd alert). You can track how many times you wore a piece and the „cost per wear“. I have used this to set challenges for myself - i.e. wear pieces more often or get the 50 least worn items belove a certain cost per wear. It also adds up the cost of all items in your closet, which can be a bit of an eye opener. It is a little work to set up at first, but it could be a welcome distraction from browsing when feeling spendy as you so elegantly put it.

I relate very much to the quest for beauty (although I find it mostly in others). But let me assure you: spending habits as well as the need to own certain things definitely change with age. I promise it will get easier. In the past years I feel much less inclined to have to own all of the things I find beautiful.

Having just bought an old decrepit house, in which I have poured way more money than I have and will put my imaginary life-money balance in the red for many years (decades) to come certainly puts things in perspective, too. Do I need a new bag or would I rather get a built-in for the hallway?

OK sorry, this turned into a much longer rant than intended. But let me close with this: you of all people do not need any fancy fashion! You could wear the same old jeans and the white t-shirt everyday and no one will notice, because everyone will be enamored with your intellect, your humor, your inner and your outer beauty. 😘

Love from Potsdam

Elisabeth

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Alessia's avatar

Thank you so much for taking the time to write this lovely, insightful comment, dear Elisabeth. Some really great tips in there that I’m keen to give a try. Thank you infinitely for reading and lots of love to Potsdam! 😘

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